I was chatting with my close friend, Mark today. Of course, the topic of women came up. What's new, right? hehehe The topic? What is different about the approach of a 10 versus a regular 6, 7 or 8? The answer? Quite a lot and 90% of guys have no clue....really, they don't....so I am going to address the guys only on this one.
Just imagine being a drop-dead gorgeous woman for a moment - Constantly being approached with " Hi, what is your name, my name is Mike." or "Hey, you are really pretty.....blah, blah, blah." If you are a bombshell, then it gets pretty damn old - day in and day out. Kinda like being a celebrity I suppose, with a constant bombardment of dumb, mundane questions and tons of flashing light bulbs from fever-frenzied paparrazzi. Don't be dumb - be different.
Simple mistake remedy #1: Being a NON-threat is a big key. Showing NO interest is another big key. Displaying your important value is critical.
How would you approach a guy? What would you say? How would you approach an ugly girl? My guess is that in both situations, you would present NO threat and NO interest - just casual, interesting and enticing conversation preceded by a starter piece...like an informercial - "Did you see that group of guys running down the street naked just now?"
Simple mistake remedy #2: When approaching at 10, you always approach her sidekick(s) first (they are almost always hanging out in groups) and continue on with your story or topic. You see, the sidekick is (most likely) her more unattractive friend or the mother hen of the group. Befriend the mother hen and everyone else in the group first, then the pursuit of your target will become much easier. Focus 95% of your conversation, your eye contact and your storyline, your charm and your ideas with those in the group that you are NOT interested in and chat it up with great stories for a good, solid 5-8 minutes before you move to your target.
Simple mistake remedy #3: Have multiple topics, ideas or conversation pieces lined up to keep the conversation going with the mother hen and the clan to keep yourself interesting and to eliminate any "lulls" in the exchange of words. As a man, your goal is to lead and lead 75% the conversation, so make sure you have several story pieces lined up to jump into that will entice your listeners. Tip: the best topics are things like vacations, mysticism, ESP, desserts, comedy and psychology.
I can probably come up with at least another 15 points to consider in any social dynamic, but you'll have to stay tuned.
Best of luck as always!
Mark
How about a personal confidence coach to walk you through some quick basics LIVE? Contact me directly in Los Angeles at mailto:atMark@moshee.net
Just imagine being a drop-dead gorgeous woman for a moment - Constantly being approached with " Hi, what is your name, my name is Mike." or "Hey, you are really pretty.....blah, blah, blah." If you are a bombshell, then it gets pretty damn old - day in and day out. Kinda like being a celebrity I suppose, with a constant bombardment of dumb, mundane questions and tons of flashing light bulbs from fever-frenzied paparrazzi. Don't be dumb - be different.
Simple mistake remedy #1: Being a NON-threat is a big key. Showing NO interest is another big key. Displaying your important value is critical.
How would you approach a guy? What would you say? How would you approach an ugly girl? My guess is that in both situations, you would present NO threat and NO interest - just casual, interesting and enticing conversation preceded by a starter piece...like an informercial - "Did you see that group of guys running down the street naked just now?"
Simple mistake remedy #2: When approaching at 10, you always approach her sidekick(s) first (they are almost always hanging out in groups) and continue on with your story or topic. You see, the sidekick is (most likely) her more unattractive friend or the mother hen of the group. Befriend the mother hen and everyone else in the group first, then the pursuit of your target will become much easier. Focus 95% of your conversation, your eye contact and your storyline, your charm and your ideas with those in the group that you are NOT interested in and chat it up with great stories for a good, solid 5-8 minutes before you move to your target.
Simple mistake remedy #3: Have multiple topics, ideas or conversation pieces lined up to keep the conversation going with the mother hen and the clan to keep yourself interesting and to eliminate any "lulls" in the exchange of words. As a man, your goal is to lead and lead 75% the conversation, so make sure you have several story pieces lined up to jump into that will entice your listeners. Tip: the best topics are things like vacations, mysticism, ESP, desserts, comedy and psychology.
I can probably come up with at least another 15 points to consider in any social dynamic, but you'll have to stay tuned.
Best of luck as always!
Mark
How about a personal confidence coach to walk you through some quick basics LIVE? Contact me directly in Los Angeles at mailto:atMark@moshee.net
